Where does the love go..?

"When you love someone and you break up...where does the love go?"
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A break up is like a death.(I realize this sounds extreme and I don't mean disrespect by comparing a break-up to the death of a person, but give me the opportunity to justify..) Not only do you mourn for the person who died, you mourn for the person you were when you were with them. I believe the hardest part of a break up isn't breaking up at all, but having to let go of the feelings you have when you're with that person and the sentimental little nothings the two of you share. I hate cliches, but as they say 'moving on is easy, it's what you leave behind that's hard.'

So where does the love go? It doesn't. The love stays even after you are both going in your own direction. How do you love someone? By loving the way you feel when you're with them, loving the things you do together, loving how the things the other says always make you feel good when everything else makes you feel bad, and loving that you have someone you can turn to. You love that, that person has been able to inspire you to be a better person.

I think that the reason it hurts and the reason that the love lingers, is because (depending on the length of your relationship) you're used to being a part of another person. Once you allow yourself to be apart of another person for such a long time, you tend to forget who you are as an individual. When your heart is used to following the beat of another, it can be difficult to find its way back to its own, foreign pattern.

The love doesn't go because love is a lot deeper than the 'status' of a relationship. The love doesn't go because love is much more complex than the severing of ties. But mostly, the love doesn't go because love is something that takes time to develop, and just as much time to dissipate.

-Satisfy my Soul